Six Energizing Tips for Caregivers
Quick List - Half dozen strategies for healthy senior caregivers
Jan 26, 2007
The nature of your caregiving responsibilities can kill you. Or, at the least, deplete your vitality. A scary thought, proven and re-proven by years of research. There’s good news though, if you’re willing to focus some energy on self-care. Risks of shortened life and of illnesses connected to the stress of caregiving drop off dramatically if you alter your behavior slightly.
Caring for a person with dementia, Alzheimer’s or physical impairments is one of the most stressful roles women take on. You run here and there to medical appointments. You manage activities, social events. You feed, maybe clothe and bathe them. It’s a lot like mothering children.
Except these child-like needs are wrapped in an adult body, complicating the tasks and creating stress. You’re dealing now with a person of heavier, bigger stature. Someone who once was as capable as you. Is this fair? Subconsciously you feel they ought to be able to manage some of this, oughtn’t they? Consciously, you feel unkind or selfish when you’re impatient. The struggle grows. Your feelings are normal. Here’s the deal -- you don’t have to be superwoman.
There’s help available. Let’s start with a half dozen ways to improve your well-being as you provide loving care for someone else.
- If you’re already feeling ill-effects from your caregiving role, contact your doctor and discuss a multi-component intervention that features a certified interventionist. It’s a big idea and takes time, but can save your life.
- If you’re feeling signs of depression – more than occasional sleeplessness, moodiness, hopelessness – see a doctor specializing in depression and get on a treatment program.
- Join a support group. They really help a lot. When my dad was in stage 5 of Alzheimer’s, I felt safe sitting in a group of plain folk who were going through exactly what I was. Contact your local mental health agency, a facility for elders (like a nursing home or residence, a geriatric practice, a senior center) and ask for a referral.
- Get respite help. This is critical. At least once a week, find someone qualified, even if you have to pay them like you once paid for childcare. Arrange for half a day’s respite. Go shopping, to a movie, visit a friend. Don’t call home. Leave emergency contact info with the respite care person.
- Contact your area agency on aging and dig deep to get to know them. They are a wealth of resources, information, assistance and even, sometimes, financial aid. They’re there to help you. Use them often and well.
- Pay close attention to your diet and your rest patterns. Eating healthy, nourishing foods goes a long way to maximize health and energy. Never skip a nourishing meal in favor of a chore. The chore will wait. If you have to, join one of the well-know weight loss programs, not necessarily to lose weight, but to learn how to feed your body. Sleep. Rest. Every day. If you can’t, you need to see your doctor, pronto. Walk more. A new study of indigenous peoples who live well into their 100s indicates they all walk – often, and with friends.
These are just a start. There are dozens of things you can do for yourself to diffuse stress and you’ll want to spend some good time considering that. It isn’t selfish – it’s survival. Take care of yourself, your friends and family need you.
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