Planning Your Elder's Care
Living Wills, Financial Plans, Medical History and Care Options
Feb 21, 2007
If your life includes parents, elderly guardians, or loved ones nearing stages in their lives where external care is required, gathering information that will allow you to assist them when they can't live alone can save both stress and heartache when such a time arrives.
Set aside a private time to sit down with your aging loved one to convey to them your understanding of their own possible concerns and trepidations regarding their future. Oftentimes, an initial approach by one individual is more welcome, even if the ultimate care of the loved one may result in many members of your family being involved.
Compile personal information from a list of questions about health treatment and living arrangements that should include: a Living Will (so that the family knows exactly what type of medical attention and response you wish to receive in the event you become ill), financial documents, contacts for important people, managing pets, or medication details.
Questions about medical history are of particularly important value. Many current laws, such as the HIPAA Privacy Rule, make sharing personal medical information about a patient prohibitive and complex, even with close family members, even in emergency situations.
Request a detailed list of all medications and vitamins they are taking, medical conditions they may now have or have had, allergic reactions, and a list of their physicians and other medical professionals. This will arm you with the type of information needed to ensure they receive the best possible care in a medical emergency.
Be aware of their comfort levels and know when to step back if something is too distressful to them, or they are reluctant. They are entitled to their privacy and don't make promises regarding what you can or will do. Sometimes what is desired is not achievable, regardless of your best intentions, but be prepared to listen, be patient, and let them know you care.
